Step 1: There is a big split between who I want to be, and what I do. I am stuck in what I do.
Step 2: To restore balance, I need to focus on what gives my life meaning and purpose.
Step 3: Pausing is how I do this, moment by moment.
Step 4: I look at my life systematically, to see patterns in how I have been relating to people and situations.
Step 5: I dig deeper into these patterns. I seek to understand the emotional logic that is behind them.
Step 6: I see how these patterns have been ways of coping with what feels overwhelming.
Step 7: I learn to accept the sense of vulnerability that comes from facing what feels overwhelming.
Step 8: I explore alternative behaviors, and rehearse them in safe settings.
Step 9: I practice these new mindful behaviors in real life.
Step 10: I live mindfully, paying attention to the causes and effects of my actions.
Step 11: I stay in touch with a broader sense of who I really am, and a deeper sense of what I really want.
Step 12: A growing sense of wholeness and contentment motivates me to keep at it
and to share this process with others who need it.